Are You “Hooked”? Working through Thoughts, Emotions, and Stories that Hold You Back

What are “Hooks”? Sometimes the stories we believe about ourselves or the world, or the thoughts emotions we experience, begin to dominate our actions, clouding our perspective and keeping us from moving toward what we value.  These are what psychologist Susan David calls hooks.   Hooks… Begin when we accept our thoughts as facts. May trigger avoidance, rumination, […]

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The Supreme Emotion

A few weeks ago we talked about the science of love and how to have more of it. We love often referred to as the “supreme emotion”. It is something that is as necessary for our well-being as anything else. One more very encouraging fact about the “supreme emotion” is this: it is possible to increase […]

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Emotional Agility: A Key Skillset for Creating the Life You Want

It can be all too easy to be on “autopilot”, mindlessly filling our days with actions that aren’t aligned with the life we want to create or the person we want to become. One reason for this is an unhealthy relationship with our emotions, including a tendency to label them as “positive” or “negative”, as “good” […]

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12 Key Facts About the Science of Love

You may have heard love described as a choice – or, alternatively, as something that you can’t help falling into or out of.  You may think of it as the special bond between families or friends or as an intimate relationship.  However, researcher Barbara Fredrickson looks at love a bit differently.  Here are a few facts she’s explored […]

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Developing Grit to Meet Your Goals: Where Passion and Perseverance Meet

If you could do anything, develop any skill, what would it be?  We value hard work in American society, but we may secretly value more, which may contribute to many people giving up quickly when things get hard, wasting their potential.  What if they knew that research has shown that the combination of passion and perseverance may […]

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25 Quick Connects For a Stronger Relationship

Relationships are built on connection. As our lives become busier it is easier to let go of the things that can connect us and harder to find time for them. Fortunately connection does not necessarily take a large time investment. Small connections can lead to big time relationship satisfaction. Try out one or all of […]

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“Keep Your Eyes on Your Own Work”: Escaping the Bondage of Comparison

You may be familiar with the quote, “Comparison is the thief of joy.”  Research shows that this is more than a clever phrase: Comparing ourselves to others – whether looking “up” to people we see as better than us or “down” on those who seem worse – is associated with lower personal well-being (e.g., higher self-blame […]

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